Wild at Heart: No More Mr. Nice Guy

Trusting you’re enjoying Thanksgiving Weekend with friends family & football!

Both these book I’ve read & reread; Captivating (the feminine heart) & Wild at Heart (the masculine heart) . Each time I do there are fresh insights into just how much God adores us, His Creation, and wishes for us to be made New.

If you haven’t really should do yourself a favor.

Understanding the Masculine & Feminine heart, AS GOD designed them, is well worth the time.   Be Blessed, Shandra. November, 21, 2015.


Wild at Heart: No More Mr. Nice Guy


Adventure, with all its requisite danger and wildness, is a deeply spiritual longing written into the soul of man. The masculine heart needs a place where nothing is prefabricated, modular, nonfat, zip lock, franchised, on-line, microwavable. Where there are no deadlines, cell phones, or committee meetings. Where there is room for the soul. Where, finally, the geography around us corresponds to the geography of our heart.

Look at the heroes of the biblical text: Moses does not encounter the living God at the mall. He finds him (or is found by him) somewhere out in the deserts of Sinai, a long way from the comforts of Egypt. The same is true of Jacob, who has his wrestling match with God not on the living room sofa but in a wadi somewhere east of the Jabbok, in Mesopotamia. Where did the great prophet Elijah go to recover his strength? To the wild. As did John the Baptist, and his cousin, Jesus, who is led by the Spirit into the wilderness.

Whatever else those explorers were after, they were also searching for themselves. Deep in a man’s heart are some fundamental questions that simply cannot be answered at the kitchen table.

Who am I? What am I made of? What am I destined for?

It is fear that keeps a man at home where things are neat and orderly and under his control. But the answers to his deepest questions are not to be found on television or in the refrigerator. Out there on the burning desert sands, lost in a trackless waste, Moses received his life’s mission and purpose. He is called out, called up into something much bigger than he ever imagined, much more serious than CEO or “prince of Egypt.” Under foreign stars, in the dead of night, Jacob received a new name, his real name. No longer is he a shrewd business negotiator, but now he is one who wrestles with God. The wilderness trial of Christ is, at its core, a test of His identity. “If you are who you think you are…” If a man is ever to find out who he is and what he’s here for, he has got to take that journey for himself.

He has got to get his heart back.

Westward Expansion Against the Soul

The way a man’s life unfolds nowadays tends to drive his heart into remote regions of the soul. Endless hours at a computer screen; selling shoes at the mall; meetings, memos, phone calls. The business world — where the majority of American men live and die — requires a man to be efficient and punctual. Corporate policies and procedures are designed with one aim: to harness a man to the plow and make him produce. But the soul refuses to be harnessed; it knows nothing of Day Timers and deadlines and P&L statements. The soul longs for passion, for freedom, for life.

As D. H. Lawrence said, “I am not a mechanism.” A man needs to feel the rhythms of the earth; he needs to have in hand something real — the tiller of a boat, a set of reins, the roughness of rope, or simply a shovel. Can a man live all his days to keep his fingernails clean and trim? Is that what a boy dreams of?

Society at large can’t make up its mind about men. Having spent the last thirty years redefining masculinity into something more sensitive, safe, manageable and, well, feminine, it now berates men for not being men. Boys will be boys, they sigh. As though if a man were to truly grow up he would forsake wilderness and wanderlust and settle down, be at home forever in Aunt Polly’s parlor. “Where are all the real men?” is regular fare for talk shows and new books. You asked them to be women, I want to say. The result is a gender confusion never experienced at such a wide level in the history of the world.

How can a man know he is one when his highest aim is minding his manners?

And then, alas, there is the church. Christianity, as it currently exists, has done damage to masculinity. When all is said and done, I think most men in the church believe that God put them on the earth to be a good boy. The problem with men, we are told, is that they don’t know how to keep their promises, be spiritual leaders, talk to their wives, or raise their children. But, if they will try real hard they can reach the lofty summit of becoming… a nice guy. That’s what we hold up as models of Christian maturity: Really Nice Guys. We don’t smoke, drink, or swear; that’s what makes us men.

Now let me ask my male readers: in all your boyhood dreams growing up, did you ever dream of becoming a Nice Guy? (Ladies, was the prince of your dreams dashing… or merely nice?)

Really now — do I overstate my case? Walk into most churches in America, have a look around, and ask yourself this question: What is a Christian man? Don’t listen to what is said, look at what you find there. There is no doubt about it. You’d have to admit a Christian man is… bored. At a recent church retreat I was talking with a guy in his fifties, listening really, about his own journey as a man. “I’ve pretty much tried for the last twenty years to be a good man as the church defines it.” Intrigued, I asked him to say what he thought that was. He paused for a long moment. “Dutiful,” he said. “And separated from his heart.” A perfect description, I thought. Sadly right on the mark.

As Robert Bly laments in Iron John, “Some women want a passive man if they want a man at all; the church wants a tamed man — they are called priests; the university wants a domesticated man—they are called tenure-track people; the corporation wants a… sanitized, hairless, shallow man.” It all comes together as a sort of westward expansion against the masculine soul. And thus the heart of a man is driven into the high country, into remote places, like a wounded animal looking for cover. Women know this, and lament that they have no access to their man’s heart. Men know it, too, but are often unable to explain why their heart is missing. They know their heart is on the run, but they often do not know where to pick up the trail. The church wags its head and wonders why it can’t get more men to sign up for its programs. The answer is simply this: we have not invited a man to know and live from his deep heart.

An Invitation

But God made the masculine heart, set it within every man, and thereby offers him aninvitation:

Come, and live out what I meant you to be.

Permit me to bypass the entire nature vs. nurture “is gender really built-in?” debate with one simple observation: men and women are made in the image of God as men or as women.

So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created Him; male and female He created them.Genesis 1:27

Male and female. Now, we know God doesn’t have a body, so the uniqueness can’t be physical. Gender simply must be at the level of the soul, in the deep and everlasting places within us. God doesn’t make generic people; He makes something very distinct — a man or a woman. In other words, there is a masculine heart and a feminine heart, which in their own ways reflect or portray to the world God’s heart.

God meant something when He meant man, and if we are to ever find ourselves we must find that. What has He set in the masculine heart? Instead of asking what you think you ought to do to become a better man (or woman, for my female readers), I want to ask, What makes you come alive? What stirs your heart? The journey we face now is into a land foreign to most of us. We must head into country that has no clear trail. This charter for exploration takes us into our own hearts, into our deepest desires.

There are three desires I find written so deeply into my heart I know now I can no longer disregard them without losing my soul. They are core to who and what I am and yearn to be. I gaze into boyhood, I search the pages of Scripture, of literature, I listen carefully to many, many men, and I am convinced these desires are universal, a clue into masculinity itself. They may be misplaced, forgotten, or misdirected, but in the heart of every man is a desperate desire for a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue.

Excerpted with permission from Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul by John Eldredge, copyright Thomas Nelson.

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Your Turn

Come share what makes you come alive on our blog! We want to hear from you.



He will do everything it takes to rescue you and set your heart free.— Stasi Eldredge from Captivating

Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul:

Captivating: Unveiling The Mystery Of A Woman’s Soul:


He will do everything it takes to rescue you and set your heart free.— Stasi Eldredge from Captivating


Captivating: Healing the Wound of Our Feminine Hearts
by Stasi Eldredge, from Captivating

Meet Stasi Eldredge

Trusting you’re enjoying Thanksgiving Weekend with friends family & football!

Both these book I’ve read & reread. Each time I do there are fresh insights into just how much God adores us, His Creation, and wishes for us to be made New.

If you haven’t really should do yourself a favor.

Understanding the Masculine & Feminine heart , AS GOD designed them, is well worth the time.  Pick them up for loved ones.  At the time of this writing Captivating is just $5. Hop over to the Faith Gateway page for the deal.

 Later today a post from his point of view- Wild At Heart (if you can’t wait just jump over to the Eldridge blog by clicking any of the highlighted links below) 

As always, be mightily Blessed~ Shandra. November 21, 2015

Editor’s Note: We recently published an article called ‘No Mr. Nice Guy’ by John Eldredge, from his book Wild at Heart and we received an incredible response from FaithGateway readers! If you missed that piece, you can still read it here. This week we’re thrilled to present to you this exclusive from Captivating – the women’s counterpart to Wild at Heart – co-authored by John with his wife Stasi Eldredge. These Christian classics have inspired millions of readers around the globe and what Wild at Heart did for men, Captivating is doing for women. Setting their hearts free. Enjoy today’s excerpt and don’t miss our $5 deal on this great book!

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I didn’t know just what was wrong with me, Till your love helped me name it. – Aretha Franklin

Down those old ancient streets, Down those old ancient roads, Baby there together we must go  Till we get the healing done. – Van Morrison

Just an hour ago, a hummingbird was trapped in our garage. They come here to Colorado in the summer, to mate and nest and feast upon the flowers that fill our garden. We love to watch them zipping around, hovering, performing acrobatics in the air.

If you get a closer look, these delicate little birds shimmer like emeralds, bright green breasts no bigger than your thumb but glittering like the crown jewels. Others have deep brilliant red throats that glisten in the sun like rubies. They are like living rainbows, flying around our backyard – something out of a fairy tale. Carefree, lovely reminders of God.

And then, today, one mistook the open garage door for a new passageway, and once she flew in, she couldn’t find her way back out. Poor little thing. She became increasingly panicked as she careened against a window, desperately trying to get back to the world she could see before her, blocked by some invisible shield. My son Blaine went in to rescue her. His brother Sam’s been able to get a few other captives to rest on the end of a long stick, which he then takes out the door and, whoosh, off they go into life.

But this one panicked even further, making a mad dash across the garage toward another window she perceived as a way out. She crashed against the window at full speed and fell to the floor. Blaine picked her up with a pair of gloves on his hands and took her outside to see if he could revive her. For about fifteen minutes things didn’t look good, but then she came back to life and flew away. What struck me was the compassion and concern we all felt for the rescue of this little jewel. The whole family dropped what we were doing and got involved. (Didn’t you feel bad for her as I told her tale?)

Now, Jesus said, don’t you think God cares just a little bit more for you than for the birds of the air? “Are you not much more valuable than they?” (Matthew 6:26). Indeed, you are.

You, dear ladies, are the crown of creation, His glorious image bearers. And He will do everything it takes to rescue you and set your heart free.

The Offer

Stasi and I lived many years of our Christian life in good churches, churches that taught us the place of worship and sacrifice, faith and suffering, and gave us a love for the Word of God. But in all those years the central ministry of Jesus was never explained to us. We understood, as most Christians do, that Christ came to ransom us from sin and death, to pay the price for our transgressions through His blood shed on the cross so that we might be forgiven, might come home to the Father. It’s true. It’s so wonderfully true.

Only… there is more.

The purposes of Jesus Christ are not finished when one of His precious ones is forgiven. Not at all. Would a good father feel satisfied when his daughter is rescued from a car accident, but left in ICU? Doesn’t he want her to be healed as well? So God has much more in mind for us. Listen to this passage from Isaiah (it might help to read it very slowly, carefully, out loud to yourself)…

The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, because the LORD has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the LORD’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion – to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. – Isaiah 61:1-3

This is the passage that Jesus pointed to when He began His ministry here on earth. Of all the Scriptures He could have chosen, this is the one He picked on the day He first publicly announced His mission. It must be important to Him. It must be central. What does it mean? It’s supposed to be really good news, that’s clear. It has something to do with healing hearts, setting someone free. Let me try and state it in words more familiar to us.

God has sent me on a mission. I have some great news for you. God has sent me to restore and release something. And that something is you. I am here to give you back your heart and set you free. I am furious at the enemy who did this to you, and I will fight against him. Let me comfort you. For, dear one, I will bestow beauty upon you where you have known only devastation. Joy, in the places of your deep sorrow. And I will robe your heart in thankful praise in exchange for your resignation and despair.

Now that is an offer worth considering. What if it were true? I mean, what if Jesus really could and would do this for your broken heart, your wounded feminine soul? Read it again, and ask Him, Jesus – is this true for me? Would You do this for me? He can, and He will… if you’ll let Him. You are the glorious Image Bearer of the Lord Jesus Christ – the crown of His creation. You have been assaulted. You have fallen to your own resources. Your enemy has seized upon your wounds and your sins to pin your heart down. Now the Son of God has come to ransom you, and to heal your broken, wounded, bleeding heart, and to set you free from bondage. He came for the brokenhearted captives. That’s me. That’s you. He came to restore the glorious creation that you are. And then set you free… to be yourself.

The LORD their God will save them on that day as the flock of His people. They will sparkle in His land like jewels in a crown. How attractive and beautiful they will be! – Zechariah 9:16-17

Here is the core reason we wrote Captivating: to let you know that the healing of your feminine heart is available, and to help you find that healing. To help you find the restoration which we long for and which is central to Jesus’ mission. Let Him take you by the hand now and walk with you through your restoration and release.

Excerpted with permission from Captivating by Stasi & John Eldredge, copyright Thomas Nelson. 

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Your Turn

Are you ready to fully surrender self-protection, idols, any person, job, possession, or circumstance where we’ve sought to fill that loneliness and ache? Is your heart eager to trust Him and Him alone? Aren’t you wooed as you consider His invitation? We would love to hear from you on our blog! Come share your thoughts about choosing God and being healed by Him



We Interrupt this Holiday Celebration ! for A Civil War Tradition

For those of you who may not be aware. Today is a big day in Oregon. No, NOT Black Friday~~Green Friday!

Andrew Greif | The Oregonian/OregonLive  A Real Fans Guide to the 119th Civil War Game. 


Ducks and Beavers Go at it today!

Ducks and Beavers Go at it today!


A look at some of the more memorable Civil War games
In-DepthSan Francisco ChronicleNov 25, 2015

This probably won’t come as a surprise, but the Oregon Ducks will be wearing a sharp new uniform for Saturday’s Civil War game against Oregon State. The uniforms, called Oregon 33 — Oregon became the 33rd state in 1859 — feature a slick green camouflage and a new helmet design.

I solemnly swear I  shall refrain from commenting TOO often about how well these ^^^ dollars could be put to use for other social causes, this time (instead of self promotion in the guise of an Oregon  history lesson-that’s another post!) – but just in case you’re curious~

Giving Tuesday: In case you haven’t heard, charity has a day too

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Our Beaver Nation Beavers Beyond Borders


Do you have a favorite for “Bowl” Time?  I’d love to hear!

It’s American Game Weekend ~ Let’s play Ball!




Safe Travels Friends

As you, friends & family travel to be with loved ones for Thanksgiving; boarding a flight or taking a drive. Today we join in prays for safe travel covering for all those we know & love.


“For He will command His angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.” – Psalm 91:11-12



Thanksgivings Past (thankfully) otherwise known as The First Thanksgiving Modern Day Update!

Pulling out a truly transparent hopefully still humorous ‘head-shaking-those were NOT-the-days’ true story as my beloved and I journey to his daughter and son-in-law’s first Thanksgiving feast for family.

Everyone of you far and near has a June Cleaver , Martha Stewart , or Rachael Ray  ideal. The beautiful ‘Traditional’ preferred version rendered to perfection~~~Mine? Not so much!

Where ever you find yourselves this Season be brilliant, be a Blessing, Be Blessed! ~~~~


English: "The First Thanksgiving at Plymo...

The beautiful ‘Traditional’ preferred version rendered to perfection~~~Mine? Not so much!

One Thanksgiving, long ago and far away, I  found myself  in the kitchen. Yes. Tis true.  Everything planned, prepared and under control.

Moving to a large  two-story rental  home meant plenty of room for the family for a holiday meal. 

English: A Thanksgiving turkey that had been s...

The FIRST major, traditional  holiday meal prepared in our  home. By mine own hands.  Brilliant. No worries. No pressure!

The  arrival of one Mother In Law, one Mother,  one  Father. No pressure.  Five present and accounted for. Let the festivities begin.

Opening the oven to the lovely sensations of a delectable pan roasted turkey . Large, juicy, painstakingly basted, perfectly stuffed….and on fire.

Early days.

Who knew our lovely creation was combustible? 

Giving Thanks for Past, Present and Future. with a smile, a thankful heart… and Ham :)Shandra

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God calls us into new Seasons, New Gifts. Are you ready?



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Until next time, Man Woman and Child, Be Brilliant, Be Blessed, Be A Blessing~ Shandra




Easy Steps to Ruining Your Relationship ! Expert Advice Just in time for the Holidays

Oh Holidays! With so much potential!

Potential for increasing stress, striving for perfectionism, striving for perfect gifts, spending what you don’t have,  road rage & shopping frenzy, errr-umm, I mean Peace On Earth, Good Will Toward All.

Here are a few reminders to keep things real(er) from Funny Man and “Ultra Spiritual” tongue-in-cheek JP (along with his lovely Beloved); Relationship 101.

Do you have any favorites? Not that you see yourself here, (& CERTAINLY not that I’ve never behaved this way) but just say, if you were to make a change, what might it be?
Spoiler ALERT & Fair Warning: do NOT show this to your Beloved to help them change, ok? They’ll not pick up the errors in their ways, but will see all YOUR flaws, tootsweet!

Happiest Holidays to you!
You’re Welcome!



Three Things Thursday Thankful for Flowers This Thoughtful Fella & Follow Through

“Look at us, said the violets blooming at her feet, all last winter we slept in the seeming death but at the right time God awakened us, and here we are to comfort you.” ~Edward Payson Rod

He started off well....October, 2014.

He started off well….October, 2014. and continues to separate himself from any the other guys.


“I am the rose of Sharon, The lily of the valleys.” “Like a lily among the thorns, So is my darling among the maidens.”  Song of Solomon 2:1-2


Another” just because”. He remembers small things & makes them romantic. Makes him Special. I fell for Him. We bring each other great happiness.


“Bread feeds the body, indeed, but flowers feed also the soul.” ~The Koran

November 11, 2015 Veterans Day Date Anniversary...just because. He loves me.

November 11, 2015 Veterans Day Date Anniversary…just because. He Loves Me.


“I’d rather have roses on my table than diamonds on my neck. ” ~Emma Goldman 

Well,  I wouldn’t go that far  Just saying!!!  


Now, before all you feminist types get heated up or if you’re new around here, simmer down! I’ve been prettying up my own table independently for several decades. Or those of you who might hop over and think what a ‘push over’ she seems!

Really, now, under your breath you’re saying “I wish my man would show up.” We know the ****dividends don’t we, ladies? (and some of you wise gents ;) )

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Until next time, might I suggest we all remember these 3 Things; keep it simple, keep it consistent, Keep IT MEANINGFUL.

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Psalms 9:10

Autumn Abundance Three Things Thursday

“Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend… when we choose to be grateful for the abundance that’s present — love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature and personal pursuits that bring us pleasure — the wasteland of lack falls away and we experience heaven on Earth.” —Sarah Ban Breathnach

Cultivating the Garden of Lack or of God’s Grateful Abundance? You have the choice! slwh

1 May Your horn of plenty always be overflowing! Autumn Leaves

“And God will generously provide all you need. Then you will always have everything you need and plenty left over to share with others.” 2 Corinthians 9:8

2. May Your Pumpkin be always Aglow.

2. May Your Pumpkin be always Aglow.

“May God give you more and more mercy, peace, and love.” Jude 1:2

3. May the Sunflower's Face be forever turned your way.

3. May the Sunflower’s Face be forever turned your way.

“Grace and peace be multiplied to you through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord.” 2 Peter 1:2

How have you experienced God’s Abundance today?

In Nature? In an unexpected Gift? Visit from a Friend?  

Be Blessed indeed, until next time, Shandra

“Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you believe in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13

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Be Still & Know That IAM God. Psalm 46:10

When We Wonder, Be Still

When we wonder “how did we get here”… where are we going… listen . You may recall you’re right where you’re intended to be- ‘ Jeremiah 18: 1-4. I went to the house of the potter … The vessel he was making was spoiled..so HE made it over..reworking to make another vessel as it seemed good to #ThePotter to make. “

Be Still & Know That IAM God. Psalm 46:10

                                              Be Still & Know That IAM God. Psalm 46:10

Shandra White Harris 2015

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Rod and Shandra Fathers Day weekend  2015 Texas

That was Then This Is Now – The God of Second Chances

You can read a bit of the beginning  In Kingdom Economy… and by clicking an of the links peppering this post.

Coincidence? Me thinks not.

Right place. Right Time?

Me thinks so.

Open to try a new relationship? Not so much.

But that was then .

Once upon a time a handsome, Brave man sent a friend request to a certain woman.

fffriend request

Friend request 7/2014

She ignored it. She was clamped tighter than a clam.

And she had a plan. (which may, or may not, have included homesteading  in the Great State of Texas. )

Until curiosity got the better of her.


God said “Go”. I said, “NO” .

But I did, of course, obey. So for coffee, I (gasp away) invited him.


Coffee date 8/21/2014 Looney Bean Bend Oregon

With tightly set parameters and having laid out the ‘rules’

so I (or he) could escape, we met. After nearly 40 years.

Rod and Shandra Portland Oregon 12/2014

We’d parted on (very) wobbly footing all those years ago.

Now? Simply curious.

Imagine my disappointment when he was such a nice guy! ;) Drats!

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(come on- you know you hope your ‘ex’ will always be unhappy, bitter and miserable)

My curiosity satisfied. Walking away (after nearly 2 surprising hours of conversation) he asked about a ‘real date’.

I opened my mouth to say “No thanks”. To my true surprise some voice said “Yes, Please.”

gods plan

That was then.

This is now.


Rod and Shandra San Diego Vacation 2015

Today marks the Anniversary of that first Coffee date. (he tells me)   6 ways Evidence of Change

When God gives you a guy who remembers small things like anniversary dates, old times, first songs, first kisses, first prayers?

He might just be worth a #secondglance.

thoughtful & kind. (and kinda cute)

thoughtful & kind. (and kinda cute) Rod @my home Surprise! Date night flowers. 8/21/2015

We spent our date night in a local House Of Prayer. A home alive with The Lord.

Me thinks that is definitely a #secondchance in the making.

7 essentials for building a great relationship →

Drop by in September for more remembrances of that first “Official Date”.

What? Can’t wait another week?

Instagram captures our adventures now days. You’re Welcome. :)


Until next time, Shandra Lee White Harris

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7 essentials for building a great relationship

“Much of life involves routine. If you’re still interested in each other while standing in line together at the post office, then you’ve got a good thing.” I’ve recently found myself in uncharted, unexpected territory….dating….seriously. By now, I’ve usually long since moved on (or the ‘he’ moves on just as quickly when he discovers my “old fashioned” values & Faith) , but here we are 9 months in and this man is still here. Who knew!? Just to be clear, in case his family, or mine, is reading ;), stay calm-we haven’t talked marriage, we ARE having fun getting to know each other as new creations- in the right place at the right time.

We’ve had very different lives, lots of happiness, hopes mingled with the loss and hurts of Life. Until recently we each hauled around a lot of mutual baggage. I’ll tell you more about this and him, soon. As is God’s gracious way, the questions we wrestle with (ok, I, Shandra, tortures herself with) HE drops in our laps a few days later. Perhaps you have relational wrestlings- er- wonderings, too? “Many situations arise where the path forward isn’t clear and couples need to communicate to figure things out.” Pray together & communicate…repeat. The best advice ever. SLWH

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Jesus The Light

When Jesus Walks The Aisles

 The Lord Inhabits The Praises Of His People  He does, O yes,  He truly does.

Two hours.

Expectation high.

Atmosphere expectant.

The One we seek & serve arrives.

Warmth, light, Holy Spirit electricity, Peace, flood the room as senses heighten.

Weeping. Prostration. kneeling.

Angelic hosts accompany Our King. Heralding Him. Ministering to HIM.  Light permeates the room -bright shimmering Light….glowing brighter and warmer.

My face is aglow. My cheeks flushed.

White seeping through the room under my closed lids is so brilliant and white.

Wait. Not the room.

The Aisle. To my Right.

Slowing. Just behind.

Stopping just beside.

The Brilliance, His Holiness.


who am I?????

Slightly my head instinctively turns left, away. so unworthy to be seen, to BE in the Presence of this One True King.

With warmth, love, compassion & Mercy He Whispers,

“Do not turn away, Child.”

” Daughter, You are so Worthy”

Like the prodigal,&  the druggie, Mary Magdalene, & the sex addict, the Pharisee, & the gambler, the Sadducees, & the trafficker, the estranged, & The Righteous& Upright alike all those HE came to touch, deeper still….

Christ the King. Christ The One. I can Not keep silent. Christ is NOT dead. Christ is NOT a meek, broken man on the Cross.

Jesus Christ is ALIVE and WELL. He’s calling YOU. He whispers “do not turn away, Child…you are so worthy”

Do not turn away. Run to HIM. He’s Not mad at you.

Give Him permission to touch the deepest, inner parts.

It matters.


(thank you for your personal, special request prayers you hand full know who you are.)

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Thanksgiving Tablescape (Legend of the Five Kernels)


A lovely story of remembrance from the book “The Light and The Glory” beautifully captured by The Warming House…enjoy and Happiest of Days.

Originally posted on The Warming House:

Years ago, I found a little story called “The Legend of the Five Kernels.” I included it at each place setting that Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving Tablescape

It’s a great way to remember the first Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving Tablescapes

“Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever.” Psalm 136:1

Here’s a cute activity you can do with your kids on the legend of the five kernels. It’s from Kelli over at Castles and Crayons.

Thanks for being here today. Come back tomorrow for the first post in my series for single moms. And, of course, I’ll leave the light on for you.

If you’re traveling this weekend, be safe.


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On the 4th Day Before Christmas The Blessing of Friends

 “Remember That Every Good Friend Was Once A Stranger”
Perhaps the greatest, simplest everyday joy , is time gifted with friends. This is written with anticipation of  parties, Women’s Christmas Tea, coffees, Tea Room, dinners, Christmas Tree lightings, Christmas light viewings, movie nights, surprise parties, long walk n talks. If ever we have been in one another’s Circles may I remind you how special you have been to my Life, near or far.
(Note : My lovely friends are indeed Lovely. they are also wise beyond compare and knowing the harshness with which the camera deals with all except a few,  we have unanimously chosen not to add the stress of harsh images forever in space. forever critiqued~these are not my friends but some of the places we gather. although, if any photos turn out we might just post some fun so check back or not. as you wish)
Two recent memorable conversations included whether we can ever be what another truly needs or wants. Probably not. Each one must decide what is truly important.  At any rate may I express my appreciation to you in this Christmas Season
 If we have yet to greet, please know how happy I will be to meet you. For however short or great a length, it will be just right. When Jesus Is The Reason, the impact will be perfect. I pray that we will each share with and lovingly fill whatever  we can in the moment, in the season or in the LifeTime.
Life is busy and full, Life is active and balanced, Life is Lovely. Friends are a blessing and always welcome in my heart . You are well thought of and well loved.







Until Next time~Take Very Good Care Shandra

aka CindyLouWho




In 2015 often finding new friends here: The Social Scene

Oh, Christmas Tree! (in a box)

A friend & professional colleague, Susan & I were talking about the holidays & how different for both of us they are this year. Full of transitions, new Promises, Excitement,

And Tree In a Box.

(Handsome Guy not included) Alas, handsome guy not included!

Hey, life changes & the wise, resourceful woman changes with it. We both laughed when we made our confession. We have both had the joy of Tree in a Box for the past 3 years. We laughed harder still when one of us blurted out “Why did we not do this Y E A R S ago?!”

Now, if I could just get the darn thing B A C K in the box.


Until Next time, Ho ho ho!




 Banner by Karren Haller

Banner by Karren Haller



 Many changes since this first posted. Now days I leave the tree trimming & cooking to the youngers in the family unit & there happens to be a very handsome guy. Much more has remained consistent. In 2015, still laughing with Susan & often laughing with these fine folks, as well:  The Social Scene.

To answer your unspoken questions? No. That darn tree, long gone now, never did return to the box. :)


Laugh Like You Mean It

A New Name! for the 76 th Oh My Heartsie Wonderful Wednesday

Same great content; whatever you seek we have it here @ #OMHGWW ,  with a reflective a new name. Many, many thanks to our Hostess, Karren, who continues to create, even as she & her husband travel through trying times. Pray for them this Holiday. & while you’re here, join us for the linky party, Thanksgiving edition! :)

 Join The Party click here! 

So wherever you are dear Friends, be Brilliant, be Blessed, but most of all, be a Blessing. It really is a wonderful Life.

Here we go! swh


As we Welcome you to our 76th “Oh My Heartsie Girls “Wonderful” Wednesday’s Linky Party, We would like to wish you all a “Happy Thanksgiving”!!
He who thanks but with the lips Thanks but in part; The full, the true Thanksgiving Comes from the heart. ~J.A. Shedd
And we welcome you each week and hope that you enjoy the features while enjoying family!!

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Oh-My-Heartsie-Girls-Weekly-Linkup If this is your first time to join us ~Welcome~ and if you are revisiting our AKA Wordless Wednesday Now…
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We hope you will participate each week.
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Karren-Host // Oh My Heartsie Girl // Christmas Staircases Decorated // I have captured some wonderful ideas for decorating staircases.
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Co-Host Evija Roberts// From Evija With Love // My Take on the November’s Theme – Take a Seat // My idea for the ‘ Take a Seat’ challenge was that I wanted to create a cool seating area for ME where I could ‘TAKE A SEAT’, sit and stay there! So here is what I did…..
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Co-Host Donna Wirthlin // Two Chicks And A Mom // Our Family Christmas Traditions #1// Many families have traditions, whether for a holiday or otherwise. One of our family’s Christmas Eve traditions is the reading of “The Other Wiseman” and I hope you enjoy my summary.
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Co-Host Ashleigh // Simply Wright // Reading Book Nook // I’ve created a neat, cozy & inexpensive reading area for my kids! Have a look!
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Co-Host Christine // Cherishing A Sweet Life // Christmas Mason Jar Candles// These festive Christmas MasonJar candles are not only seriously easy to make, but cost less than $5 each! They would make great gifts to have on hand for teachers, friends at work, hostess gifts for those Holiday parties going on this Season. They do, also brighten up the Holidays! If you like candles and mason jars as much as I do you are going to love making these. Not to mention they were a ton of fun to make!
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Co-Host Christine Mello // Must Love Home // Spicy Squash Seeds Recipe// Do you like pumpkin seeds? If so, you will love these Spicy Squash Seeds! They are a little smaller than pumpkin seeds, and really crisp up when they are roasted. Cajun Seasoning and Sugar take them over the top!
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The FAblous Journey♥The Fabulous Journey // An Afternoon On Haji Lane // I enjoyed a wonderful afternoon on Haji Lane in Singapore…awesome shopping and colorful architecture!
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My Purple World

♥Co-Host Indah // My Purple World // Sambal Goreng Tempe – Indonesian Sweet-and-Spicy Tempe // More recipe from Indonesian favorite dishes for you all. Have you ever heard of or tried tempe? Let’s try this Indonesian sweet and spicy tempe :)
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Co-Host Pick By Christine Mello @ Must Love Home // Create With Joy // Ultimate Star Wars Gift Guide

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Small Victories Sunday Linkup Join The Party! #75

Many greetings of the Season to you and yours! Thanks for taking a moment to stop by. From handling clutter to house guests, recipes, DIY or that first Thanksgiving; whatever you’re looking for we have it covered in our weekly linkup!

Many thanks to Tanya @ Mom’s Small Victories’s , our weekly Hostess with the Mostess!

Now, if you’re ready to roll the link will direct you to the party page. We’d surely love to have you come along! Show us what ya got! :)

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Be Blessed and most importantly, Be A Blessing. swh


Happy Fall! Join us for Small Victories Sunday Linkup and share your best fall recipes, reading lists, crafts, decor, life & blog hacks.

Who’s ready to party? Isn’t it amazing that Thanksgiving is next week? How will you be celebrating? Who were your favorite posts from last week’s linkup? Well, time to get this party started and enjoy the inspiration from our favorite bloggers here at Small Victories Sunday Linkup. We hope you will find some simply amazing ideas to help you make this the best holidays yet!

Our co-hosts have been busy commenting, sharing and inviting the best bloggers to participate in our linkup. That means we’ve got the best posts to inspire you to read, eat, craft, live and blog well! Who were your favorites last week? Let us know in the comments, we love to hear from you. Keep reading and see if they were the Featured Bloggers.

Bloggers, our linkup is designed to share your BEST posts to inspire our fast growing community of readers. Share with us anything that will help others live a happier and healthier life. Sunday is the perfect day to reflect and celebrate the week that passed and look forward to the week ahead. Our linkup is open all week long so feel free to stop by anytime, it’s never too late to linkup with us. If you need writing prompts or to see past linkups, visit our main Small Victories Sunday Linkup page.

A friendly reminder that our goal is to inspire others through positive posts, posts that are rude or offensive may be deleted from the linkup. Also, since my kids visit my blog, please keep content free of sexual themes. Thanks!

Give some love to your extra special hosts who do their best to encourage and promote your posts!

Ways You Can Follow Your Hosts:

Your Small Victories Sunday Linkup Hosts: Mom's Small Victories, Sunshine and Sippy Cups, The Mad Mommy, Frugal & Coupon Crazy, GeminiRed Creations, Keystrokes by Kimberly, Tidbits of Experience, Hines-Sight Blog, Simply Save, All Inspired Mom, Oh My Heartsie Girl, O Taste and See, Shandra from With Heart Wide Open and One Hoolie Mama

Tanya M from Mom’s Small Victories (books, food, chronic illness)| Pinterest | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Google +
Meagan from Sunshine and Sippy Cups (lifestyle) | Pinterest | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Google +
Echo from The Mad Mommy (family/parenting, humor)| Pinterest | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Google +
Gail from Frugal & Coupon Crazy (saving money) | Pinterest | Facebook | Twitter | Google +
Heather from GeminiRed Creations (crafts, handmade, small business) | Pinterest | Facebook | Twitter | Google +
Kimberly from Keystrokes by Kimberly (lifestyle, travel, entertainment) | Pinterest | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter
Crystal from Tidbits of Experience (family, entertainment, books) | Pinterest | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Google +
Leigh from Hines-Sight Blog (lifestyle, food, travel) | Pinterest | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Google +
Heather from Simply Save (saving money, minimalism, life) | Pinterest | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Google +
Tiffani from All Inspired Mom (family, crafts, planning)| Pinterest | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter
Karren from Oh My Heartsie Girl (food, crafts/DIY, blogging tips)| Pinterest | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter
Danita from O Taste and See Blog (food) |Pinterest | Facebook | Twitter | Google +
Shandra from With Heart Wide Open (life, faith, family)| Pinterest | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter
Suzanna from One Hoolie Mama (family, recipes, fitness)| Pinterest | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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