Everybody knows at least one. Someone who is always there when a need arises?
Often these are the very folks at high risk of becoming run down or drained. Giving without much return ( part of being in “Service/Helping professions”). Dr Gary Chapman describes it in his books, ” an empty emotional love tank“. Those are the times as a happy, successful single I get away on my own. Delicious to lay around the beach or poolside, or see the sites,for a few recharging days- with room service a dial away Trust me! It is.
Then Surprise! This man keeps showing up. 😉
For a year this guy has shown up, in every way, no matter what. Push back, little time, lack of interest, running away, too much interest, blatant curiosity. No matter what I’ve thrown at him (and it’s been plenty!) during this emotional (for me) roller coaster called dating, falling in Love & Hashtag #afteroureuphoriarunsout. He’s met me with kindness, tenderness, and Love. Total Acceptance. Never any judgement.
In the process we’ve learned some things :
*people can change.
*we’re good for each other because we seek the best in and for each other.
*Love IS patient.
On a recent date night, I’d come prepared to serve him, for a change. I’ve been taking note of his Love Languages. I’m joyfully ready, willing and able to find ways to fill his love tank (hot fudge sundae anyone? 😉 )
We love to laugh, so when The Proposal came on we settled in.
(Ohmygosh!!! that moment you realize YOU are that character and everyone else has known it all along!!!!!????) Sandra Bullock has run away (again). Her beloved (with his family’s full support!!!)) has chased her down to NY for a face off . He puts his foot down (finally) that moment she declares she’s fine, she likes her life, she’s happy! *Yikes*. (I’d been fine. I’d been happy. Single hood truly does have so many perks when you’re comfortable.) She whispered to him ” I’m scared ” the same exact words I’d spoken over and over (sans admitting fear in the face of Love).
I’M FINE…..meaning “I’ve been on my own forever, single 10 years and I’m comfortable with my trajectory, thank you very much”.
My beloved smiled, as I, open-mouthed, red-faced turned to him and said “that’s me. ” 🙂 Without skipping a beat he chuckled, “I was just going to say the same thing.” *Double Yikes*
Habitual giving, always filling others, getting things done- it never seems possible there’d really be some one who responds & complements so meaningfully over the top. I couldn’t really imagine. #ButGod
*he kept showing up, loving me the best ways he knew how. some days it’s all we can do & it’s more than enough.
*when things reached “crises” mode, we each have firmly put our foot down, making our requests. Because it’s loving, reasonable and true, we can agree.
*because he’s made such huge Love deposits in our relationship for an entire year, often with minimal promise of Hope, not only has #TheNewManRightInFrontofMe made up for deficit withdrawals from ‘Life’ (for both of us), his determination to “Love me the best ways he knows how”, has filled me to bubbly overflowing; handy man, honeydos ( acts of service) date nights, long walk and talks, weekend trips & conversation (quality time), cards , flowers, bling (gifts), constant words of encouragement & Hope (Affirmation) & always hand holding, hugs, a shoulder squeeze (Physical Touch).
He’s covered just about all of it. Now it’s my turn. We’ve come to the dance at the same time.
YOU’RE TURN! We’d love to hear your own Moments of Realization. Love Stories, Love Languages and all the wonders to get there.What happens when the ‘In Love’ wears off and real Life begins?
So #whatsyourstory ?
Until next time~ Shandra, Shining Once Again~
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